Okay, you’ve been Thinking Big about doing something for a long time. Maybe a really long time. But, you just haven’t started because ….
it feels scarey
you’re unsure of the unknown (well, yeah)
it requires change (and, you oh-so-don’t-want-to-have-to-change)
you might fail (what would others think, then!)
you might stumble and fall (this could be embarrassing)
you don’t know how to do it (we all start at this stage, don’t we?!)
lots of other reasons (uh, excuses)
But, this is your life… You only get one round in this body/mind/spirit. And, what if? WHAT IF you really did these incredible things on your Life List?!
And, this body/mind/spirit has some things on its list that you would really, really love to do some day, doesn’t it? It would be so, so, so cool if you could ____ (fill in the blank). Okay, so let’s just reflect for a minute on how great it would be if you could _____. Make a list of how your life would change, in a better way, if you could Be/Do/Have this desire or goal you have. Get in to it. Play with it. Create a picture of your new life with this Be/Do/Have. Make it delightful, magnificent, gorgeous, outrageous. See yourself there, in that spot. How do you look and feel? Got a smile on your face there?! I bet you do. You want to make it a positive you want to be pulled towards rather than a negative you are escaping from.
Now this idea you have to Be/Do/Have something better than you are can be very simple and small or very big. Doesn’t matter. Sometimes we need to start small and slow to give us courage. Sometimes we can tell we are just ready to do it in a big way. Or, we need the vision/picture of the big way to really get excited and ready to take this thing on! Woooohoooo! Bring it on! Bring it on BIG!
You are going to start a 30 Day Trial….
I love this tool! You can use this for anything. You commit 100% to Be/Do/Having this thing for 30 days. NO cheating or slipping, AT ALL. If you cheat or slip, you have to START OVER. And, at the end of 30 days, if you want to let it go and go back to your old ways, you can. You give yourself permission to do it for 30 days and you give yourself permission to stop it after 30 days if it isn’t right for you. But, you HAVE to give it the full 30 days to see if it is, or isn’t, right. You are simply practicing the new process, the new habit, the new action, the new way of being. You are looking at how you feel about the process and how you feel about the outcomes. Because, all action has an outcome, doesn’t it? Even the action of trying to stay still and not doing anything has an outcome….of an unfulfilled life.
Next, keep a log or journal of your 30 day trial so you can review it as you go or at the end. Keep it simple. Note the days when things felt hard or difficult. Note the days when things flowed and you felt really good about life. Observe yourself. Hmmm, what caused that? How can I make that easier/better? Be/Do/Have this thing you have always wanted to do and, even if you stumble, you will not regret having tried. You will be amazed how these 30 Day Trials can give you confidence, courage, self esteem, energy, empowerment, control, delight, joy. They can open a small window or door. Or, then can blow the roof off your life and create amazing change. At the end, you can start another 30 Day Trial of the same thing, make the another 30 Day Trial of the same thing in a bigger/better way, or let it go because it wasn’t the right thing for you.
Here are some examples
“Do” a new eating plan you’ve been thinking about trying (big)
“Do” start having a green smoothie every day for breakfast (small)
“Do” a new exercise plan you’ve been thinking about starting (big)
“Do” start walking every night after dinner for 30 minutes (small)
“Do” a new group/club you’ve been thinking about joining (small)
“Do” attend classes/training/participating in some activity you would love to do (big)
“Do” let go of a group/club/person you’ve been thinking about spending less time and energy on
“Do” set a play date with your family/spouse/friend every week same day and time
“Be” _____ every day (fill in the blank with the feeling of your choice…peaceful, bold, confident, playful, light, calm, friendly, helpful, etc)
“Do” start working on your Big Dream. Start research on it. Begin to visualize it, plan it. (big)
I have personally done many 30 Day Trials. Some have had amazing, transformational results. Others were not right for me and allowed me to move on to do other things. These simple 30 Day Trials have helped me see whether a B/Do/Have on my Life List is sustainable, empowering, energizing, confidence boosting, and delightful … or not.
So, try it and let me know how it goes. I love hearing from you…